“Now that she’s losing her memory, She’s still my Grandma, isn’t she?"
"Wordsworth felt like the entire house was holding a big secret."
"Wordsworth was a poet...."
Shhhhh...
"hush, hush,
Grandma's losing
her memory.
She's forgetting,
To flush the john.
Hush, hush
She's lost
her glasses again.
Hush, hush,
She's forgotten
my name.
Hush,hush,
Shhhhh."
- Wordsworth
In "Wordsworth Dances the Waltz", children are introduced to the concept
that as grandparents age, they may become different, and even forget
important things. But that doesn’t mean they aren’t still a part of the
family nor do they love us any less than they did before. Nor, are they any
less valuable to us, despite their difficulties. As the story progresses,
Wordsworth finds comfort in writing poems that express his confusion over
the changes in his beloved grandparent and the fond memories he has of her
more vibrant days. His poems also help his family understand that Grandma
would still like to do the things that she always loved to do, spending time
with the family, laughing and dancing. "Wordsworth Dances the Waltz" is the
second book of Frances Kakugawa featuring the literary mouse Wordsworth and
his friends. The Northern California Publishers & Authors group named it the
2007 "Best Illustrated Children's Book" as well as the Bronze Award
for "Best Book Overall; a rare achievement for a children's book.
an 'overall' category."
Hardcover; 32 pp. Author: Frances H. Kakugawa; illustrated by Melissa DeSica
Publisher: Watermark Publishing, HI, June 2007
Wordsworth Dances The Waltz features a family of mice,
living much as any family – enjoying their day to day lives,
when time creeps up on them…
Wordsworth's first love is poetry – for a long while now it has been
his source of comfort and understanding…writing is this little mouse’s
way of dealing with life. And so when his beloved Grandma comes to stay
with the family Wordsworth is shocked and a bit frightened by the changes
that have taken place. The once vibrant, boisterous home, filled with the
sounds of music and laughter has fallen quiet and his parents talk in hushed
voices…whispering about how Grandma is losing her memory and things just aren’t
the same.
Wordsworth is saddened and very disappointed when his father tells him Grandma
can’t attend the special Grandparent’s program at school. Before class that
morning Wordsworth sits beside his Grandma’s bed and writes a poem, expressing
his feelings – ending with – “She’s still my Grandma, isn’t she?”
What follows is a touching reunion of family, with a new found understanding
of how they will interact from this day forward. This is a beautifully written,
heartfelt story that addresses dementia, Alzheimer’s and loss of independence,
subjects families are dealing with everyday. Seniors are an integral part of
the family tree and it’s important to maintain close bonds and continue to
interact with and allow children to enjoy the time they have with them…it is
precious!
I highly recommend this story to all families – there should be a copy in every
elementary school, library and nursing home. Especially senior care facilities –
this book would be an excellent tool to ease youngsters fears, answer questions
they may not be able to express and reassure them Grandma or Grandpa may be
different, but they love you and they’re still an important part of the family!
If you or someone you know is facing any of these situations, pick up a copy of
this book!
Additional Comment:
The language utilized is age appropriate and the author speaks with a
delicate, parental touch that’s warm, supportive and kind. Many of the
words are defined quickly, within the sentence, providing an educational
side to the book as well.
Ex: “….dojo, or school”
“gi, the white robe worn by karate students,…”
I cared for my Grandmother and although she was not suffering from dementia,
this book would have been a real blessing when talking with my daughter about
the changes that were taking place within our family. I will not hesitate to
share this book!!
Kudos & Congratulations to author, Frances H. Kakugawa for
delivering a well written, helpful story that is beautifully illustrated.
"Wordsworth the Poet is a little mouse who is worried about
his Grandma. She's is losing her memory and having trouble doing
things she used to be able to do quite easily. What can Wordsworth
as a loving grandson do to help his Grandma? This is the story and
premise for "Wordworth Dances The Waltz", a superbly written picturebook
story by Frances H. Kakugawa which is enhanced throughout with the full
color illustrations of Melissa DeSica. Just what can Wordsworth do?
Well for one thing, writes some poetry to express the situation and his
feelings. In the end, Wordsworth comes to understand that despite
all the changes in his Grandma's behavior, he still loves her and always
will. "Wordworth Dances The Waltz" is an especially recommended picturebook
for young children experiencing the phenomena of memory loss, Alzheimers,
and other forms of dementia manifesting within their own grandparents.
Simply stated, "Wordworth Dances The Waltz" should be a part of every
elementary school and community library picturebook collection for young
children.
Trying to capture a better view of the illustrations of a dragon
chasing a flying bird, sixth-graders leaned forward as Frances
Kakugawa read from her book "Wordsworth Dances the Waltz."
Her book tells of a poetic mouse whose grandmother has been stricken
with Alzheimer's. Kakugawa knew she had held the crowd spellbound:
When her lilting voice modulated with the poem-with-a-story, some
nodded in time. When she stopped in a dramatic pause, the Niu Valley
Middle schoolchildren drew a collective breath.
" 'She's forgotten my name' ..." Kakugawa read quietly.
Through workshops and classes, Kakugawa is showing that while
Alzheimer's slowly saps loved ones' memory, writers even as young
as these can help preserve those precious stories themselves.
It's something Kakugawa knows well. For five years she was the
primary caretaker of her elderly mother, who was diagnosed with the
disease in her 80s and died at age 90. She told the children about
how the window into her mother's mind would open, allowing a glimpse
of her former self, but close just as quickly.
A former schoolteacher who taught both here and on the Mainland,
Kakugawa used that time with her mother to write in her journal and
compose poetry, in part to work through the rigors of caretaking,
but also to capture the stories and keep her mother alive while
her condition worsened.
At last week's Niu Valley class, Kakugawa discovered how much her
message really hit home when she asked the class to write their own
memories of a grandparent.
"To be a writer, you must not be afraid of the truth," she prefaced.
She also urged them to follow the golden rule of English assignments:
Be specific.
One young man wrote about the times his grandfather, who was
losing his memory, used to take him to buy slushies, but doesn't
anymore.
"Maybe you can take him," Kakugawa told the boy, who looked up at
her, proud to be singled out and visibly considering her suggestion.
'LIKE A GIANT ERASER'
To illustrate Alzheimer's effects, Kakugawa, who now lives in
Sacramento, drew on the board the school children's estimated lifeline,
assuming they live to be 100.
She asked them to think of important memories in their lives. One
mentioned a trip to the ER when he was younger; another popped in
with the time his family got a new puppy; yet another recalled a
memorable birthday. "Here you are, at about 11," she said, marking
little lines like the centimeters on a ruler, in a smallish space.
She asked them what memories their grandparents and great-grandparents
might have over their greater expanse of years. One girl said
"marriage"; another, the birth of offspring; even war came up.
Down the lifeline Kakugawa followed with her marker, dotting lots more
lines. The exercise showed the children the vast reservoir of memories
their elders lay claim to.
Then she sounded the knell. "Do you know what Alzheimer's does?"
Kakugawa asked the children, reaching for the eraser. One little girl
made a quiet gasp. Kakugawa began wiping away the lines, from the far
end toward the near. "It works like a giant eraser," she said.
Kakugawa told them how her mother first lost her most recent memories.
She lost the ability to speak. To use the bathroom. Even to eat.
"That's why Alzheimer's has been called a thief, a robber," Kakugawa
said. To preserve what she could, Kakugawa wrote down the stories
from her mother's childhood in Japan. But eventually, Kakugawa's mother
lost even the ones from childhood.
MEMORY KEEPERS
But, she told the children, no one can steal your memories, nor should
we stop enjoying our loved ones while we have them near. As part of
her ongoing work, Kakugawa has created another book, this one geared
for adults, "Mosaic Moon: Caregiving Through Poetry" (Watermark
Publishing, $16.95). It chronicles not only her time caretaking, but
includes other caretakers' perspectives, as well.
Kakugawa said when she does readings and book signings, she can tell
that many seniors are buying her latest "Wordsworth" book for their
children and grandchildren, in the hopes that one might become the
receptacle for their stories.
These children were taking the same lesson to heart. "Someday you
can gather the memories your grandparents have," Kakugawa told them,
"while they can still talk to you."
"As with all of Kakugawa's other works, this one provides powerful
insights to young and old alike, without the overbearing moralizing often
thinly disguised in childrens literature. In this case, the lessons are
multilayered. It breaks the 'ice-puzzle' for kids who live in households
where grandma or grandpa's "condition" is still some kind of mysterious
secret. The easy lesson is that those suffering from Alzheimer's remain
family members, with the need for respect and love no different from any
other family member - even if their needs for care may differ. The more
difficult lesson is that we have as much to gain from the people we care
for as they have from us. Kids will pick up on that on first reading. Adults
may take a few more reads before they get it. It's a 'must read' for all kids
and a reminder for anyone who thinks people with dementia are useless and
strange. Ms. Kakugawa also conducts workshops and support groups for the
Alzheimer's Assn. and other organizations. The book makes it clear that she's
no arm-chair story-teller when it comes to caring for and about people. If
there was another star, I'd give it to 'Wordsworth Dances the Waltz' hands down. "
- Red Slider, poet
Author of "Stewards of Mortality",
"Noguchi - The Man Who Entered Stone",
"The Ballad of Emma Good" and other works.
"Wordsworth Dances the Waltz" received the Northern California Publishers and Authors Association award for the 'Best Book of 2007' in the Children's literature catagory; and, and its Bronze Award in the overall awards for all catagories.
To a child, unfamiliar behavior and capability in a grandparent is no small matter. "Wordsworth Dances the Waltz" has been used in many settings to help children understand and relate to changes in elder family members that may puzzle or discomfort them. The book was used as part of the core curruclum in the Hawaii public school system; and has been used as the basis of classroom and workshop activites in public schools throughout the country. Presently, the work is under considerati0n for use in family support groups and workshops for children, a concept being explored by the Alzheimer's Association in Sacramento and the author.
√ - Asian American Curriculum Project - An Interview with Frances kakugawa.
√ - Northern California Publishers Association.
"Oh, how she loved to dance!"
"If there wasn't anyone
to dance with,
she danced by herself."
"If there wasn't any music
She danced without it."
"...laugh and laugh
as they danced
around the room."
but now,
"The entire house was holding a big secret..."
"We are all special in our own way."
"Grandma...
come, dance with me."
"His Highness, the Flying Fish!"